Post # 4.1: Reflection on meeting 1

The meeting for our CG1102 project was held last Friday in school. I was pleasantly surprised that the meeting went quite well with Junhao leading the meeting.

Looking at the video we took during meeting, i realized that I am not contributing enough to the meeting. I did respond at some point during the meeting, but my ideas where not expressed properly and thus could have resulted in them not able to understand me. This, could be that i am not familiar with the project requirement and procedures.

In the same video, i was also seem fidgeting with with my pen and often looking down at the papers when others are talking. This could signify my inattentiveness and shows a lack of respect to the one talking. For this, i offer my sincere apology for being unrespectful.

Hence, in future meeting, i should try to familiarize with the project requirement and the things that needs to be done. I should too, do my primary research on the project before attending the meeting to better prepare myself, should i need to present an idea to others. I should also try to explain myself clearly and concisely when i am stating my idea so as to avoid misinterpretation by others. I should, too , think before hand whether what i am saying is feasible or not before stating it as a suggestion.

I should try to curb my habit of fidgeting with my pen and look in the eye of the person talking so as to show that i am giving my total attention. This could probably allow me to understand them better too.

I give myself a 6/10 for being responsive during the meeting , but been unrespectful towards towards the one speaking. I shall try to achieve 10/10 for the next meeting!

Meeting Video

Post # 4: Reflection on meeting 1

The meeting for our CG1102 project was held last Friday in school. In my most honest opinion, i do think that this meeting is very well done, despite the fact that we are not able to capture a nice 1 hour video as per the requirement of the project. In fact, the meeting was so conducive that we actually over shot our meeting timing by half an hour.

Looking back at the video of the project, it feels good to see that the group of us are able to communicate effectively and harmoniously. The frequent use of hand signals,body gestures and follow-up argument after one party stated their opinion is something that i think every meeting should have.

The meeting was held at a rather fast pace as it is assumed that all of us have understood the task before hand. However this assumption basically broke into pieces while halfway into the meeting as we realised, that none of us understand explicitly what Colin wants,even after reviewing the project sheet over and over again. Hence, in the end, we decide to try our best, to come out with a proper program that we think that the commercial sectors would enjoy, and us, the programmers would enjoy programming.

The overall progress of the meeting was quite good. We were able to come up with a clear outline of tasks to do, while keeping the meeting short and sweet. The issues raised were properly discussed, and the pros and cons carefully weighed. I especially like the way that our leader accepts and rejects opinions directly, yet non-offensively, this is clearly the mark of a good leader. However, the discussion for that whole meeting was that bit confusing to me as the language used is too technical and the jump from item to item was too fast for me to digest.

Meeting Video

Post #3.1: Resolving interpersonal conflict

i could still remember some time ago, i was in this organizing committee for organizing a sport event under the committee sports club.

I was placed in charge of the logistic side under the committee and so, i had to make sure all the logistic items are sourced out and the transportations planned out properly. My job too, included making sure that the members in my team do their part of work for this project.

As a leader, i am thus tasked to allocate the jobs to different members within my team. For some reason, one of my fellow team mates was not happy with my allocation of jobs. But instead of telling me, he just kept quiet, until a few days before the dateline.

When we are reaching the dateline, i called for a meeting to discuss what they have gathered. To my amazement, he reported that he had not done a single stuff as he was not happy with my arrangement. In the heat of the moment, i told him off, saying that he was very irresponsible to have not done the work allocated and he had just caused our whole team's progress to become stagnant.

In the end, he just stomped out of the room and disappeared. He was never seen for the rest of the meetings and hence out of desperation, we ended up having to cover his part of the work.




As i reflect back at the moment, i realized that i was too harsh on him. I should not have been so hurting to him and i should exercise restraint when i am angry. I feel that i should apologise to him, but i could not put down my pride and be the first one to apologise. Hence, i begin to avoid him every time i see him.

What should i do?

Post #3: Resolving interpersonal conflict

Thinking back, i use to have this friend who, always wants things to follow his way. Whenever the group of us goes out together, he is always the one leading us to places and keep asking us to oblige to his demands.

So one faithful day, i decided that i should not tolerate with his nonsense anymore. I confronted him on MSN, asking him why do he always wants us to do things his way. To my amazement, he got angry and told me that if we were to lead, the whole lot of us will only end up doing useless stuff!

That comment really made my blood boiled. How could he could that of us? Are we that useless to him? I followed up, asking him that if he felt that we are a useless bunch of people, then why is he even hanging out with us?

His reply made me more angry. "Cause you guys have no friends."

I do not know what got into him, but at that point of time, all I could felt was anger.

I shut off the conversation window, went and found his contact page on MSN window and blocked him forever.

Ever since, I had not talked to him nor made any contact with him. Even when I saw him outside, I would just turn about or ignore his existence; I did not even lend a helping hand to him when I realised he was being blamed for something that he did not do.

I even find myself spreading bad rumours about him unknowingly then.

How do I get back this friend without him being the same old selfish him?